The focus of couples therapy is to build intimacy between partners. The end goal of which is that both partners share enjoyable sexual experiences which feed and nourish their relationship. While sex may not be the most important component of the marriage, it is a significant part for most couples.
In America today, we are faced with an onslaught of sexual advertising and media. The pressures of our society have us feeling obligated to be in constant pursuit of newer and bigger. The consequences of these pursuits are that we fail to find the time to take care of our physical and emotional needs; to nurture ourselves and our partner.
Based on His Needs Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley,
Men’s five most basic relationship needs tend to be:
- sexual fulfillment
- recreation companionship
- an attractive spouse
- domestic support
Women’s five most basic relationship needs tend to be:
- honesty and openness
- financial support
- family commitment
At times, therapy addresses the mechanics of sex. Working with couples to address these issues can be challenging due to the level of shame and guilt one may carry. Our brain is our largest sexual organ. Anxiety over sex is often a key issue with couples who are dissatisfied with their sexual relationship.
Common sexual issues we work with include but are not limited to:
- low sexual desire or conflict over desire levels
- erectile dysfunction
- painful sex
- orgasm issues
- sexual addiction/ compulsive behavior
- trauma from previous sexual abuse